Frustrated with so much

I haven't been on here because I feel like everything I've worked so hard for is just crumbling down. I'm so beat from so much I do not not even know where to begin.

First, my daughter has her gazillionth ear infection. She went to the 2nd ENT which told us it was the season of sickness and infection. Needless to say, she's going to be ok and hopefully no more infections. Samantha started throwing tantrum/fits and I have no idea how to respond to it. i spank her tush but she seems to enjoy that because she keeps throwing fits. She thew one in the middle of the night last night and I didn't even know how to respond. I had samantha down to a T on a routine. She was napping at 11am and 3:3opm every day for an hour and then bedtime at 8pm sharp. Since we got back to iowa, she's been spoiled. Joe feels bad for her at night sometimes when she cries--especially when she was sick. When she was sick, joe would hold her and rock her to sleep. She now will not go to sleep on her own nor will she nap on her own without being rocked or patted. I can't stand that!! I'm not a mom of spoiling my kids at all and I am so frustrated with this situation. Some days i dread because I know I have to fight this battle!!! I know my way is the right way, a few days of crying has never killed a child. Especially when it's 10-15 minutes. By the 2-3rd night she's out cold every time!! I'm starting my routine tomorrow-wish me luck. We also got Samantha a big girl bed and i need to convert her before this baby is born next month so that i'm not dealing with a newborn plus my 14 month old!!

Any advice and support you can give me as a friend is much appreciated.

I lost my plug last night and had contractions. I'm so glad the contractions vanished because I'm overwhelmed with the whole situation with Samantha. I'm so sick of being pregnant!!! So sick of it. I've been obsessed with my Big Brother shows at night and Biggest Loser so that has taken priority over getting on here and reading you ladies BLOGS. :(

Anyhow, enough venting today.....looking forward to hearing any adivce you can give.